I'm Too Old, It's Too Late
I’m too old, it’s too late.
I hear this all the time. From kids in their teens, to adults in their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and beyond.
It doesn’t matter what age, there is always a reason they aren’t doing whatever they dreamed and often it’s because “it’s too late”.
But what if, when you said that in your teens, you had taken action anyway?
What if when you said that in your 20’s you’d gone ahead?
What if, in your 30’s you had done the thing you wanted back then?
How will you feel if you get 10 years down the line and you realise it wasn’t too late after all, but now you are 10 years behind?
I understand it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life apart from being a mum and wife, so I put everything else on hold because I thought there was so much time, and I was scared it was too late anyway and I would never discover what I wanted.
I wish I had changed things long before I did. Before my body shut down and forced me to stop. Before my marriage was too difficult to deal with and it fell apart. Before I got into another relationship which was no good for me.
If I had spent the time then to change all the things I thought were impossible, I wonder where I would be now.
I'm exactly where I need to be
And as soon as I think that, I also realise I’m exactly where I need to be. All of those experiences helped me get here, to start the thing I needed to start at the right time with the right experience behind me.
But if I was still talking about it, and hadn’t started yet, I wouldn’t be helping people now.
I help people find themselves after divorce because I have done that very thing.
I help people communicate better with the people around them because I have had bad communication and learned the skills.
I help people find the courage to take the next steps because I lacked courage, and then took steps.
I help people change their mindset because I have changed mine.
I support people who are struggling with their kids because I have struggled with mine.
If life had fallen into place, I wouldn’t know what I know, and I wouldn’t be driven to help others live the life they want.
BUT
No Excuses
That’s not an excuse to wait now. As soon as I started choosing how I wanted life to be, it felt so much better.
As soon as I found support to help me achieve my dreams, things started falling into place.
There is always space for life’s dramas because we can’t control everything and everyone around us, but we can control how we respond to those dramas.
We can let them eat us up and stop us in our tracks, or we can choose to use them to push us forward.
Some days that’s difficult.
Some days I just want to pull the duvet over my head and hide.
But I never do.
I always get up, put one foot in front of the other and keep going.
Because the alternative is I get stuck in the drama of life, letting it swallow me up and pull me down the river to any destination it feels like.
Build a boat
If you choose to build a boat, you can also choose where you get off the river, or at least navigate it in the best way possible.
Doing this alone is possible, but it’s always better to have a team to build and navigate the boat with.
Who is your team?
What are you putting off?
If you find yourself saying:
“It’s too late”,
“I can’t do it now”,
“I need more experience” (which stops you, so you end up doing nothing),
“Other people have been doing it longer”,
“Other people did it differently/better and I can’t do it that way because it’s too late”.
Check your reality.
Is what you are saying reality or opinion?
Are they just excuses to keep you in your comfort zone?
What if you hold on to these beliefs and they are not true?
Who can you check with for a different perspective?
One of my clients checked their own beliefs with someone more experienced in their industry and realised a lot of the stories they were using were just that, stories based on a limited opinion. By having an open and honest talk, they found another perspective. They realised some thoughts were reality and other thoughts were just made up from their own experiences, not the broader landscape.
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Jenny Jarvis is a practicing, certified, UK Life Change Coach and NLP Practitioner who has empowered numerous people to live a life of their dreams, unleash their relationship with money and start and grow brands and businesses to great success. A truly inspirational individual, Jenny is also the mum to two amazing teens, a Reiki Master and motivational speaker. She inspires all to harness their greatness through energised coaching sessions, workshops and her membership club.
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