I spent a whole weekend being a professional procrastinator.
I have tools; I know to eat the frog (great book on how to overcome procrastination), get up and move my body, do some tapping, have a walk, I just couldn’t shift the thought of impending doom around the task I had to complete.
So, I froze and did nothing. I binged on rubbish tv and slept. I didn't even do the face mask as planned.
It was a clear case of self-sabotage.
I had had a very difficult week, why not mope around all weekend barely able to move my body because I just did not want to fill in some forms I had been given.
Logically, I knew that it wouldn’t take that long.
I also knew the information I had to supply was just simple regurgitation of facts and not writing it down wasn’t going to change that.
I knew that I was ruining my weekend worrying.
But did I eat the frog? Nope!!
I made a conscious decision I would leave it until 6am on Monday morning. It had to be done then. I had no choice at that point.
As soon as I opened it and started working through it, the fog lifted. It wasn’t that hard after all.
So, why on earth did I immerse my weekend in procrastination and all the bad feelings that come with it?
Because it was difficult, I had slipped into old habits. I was emotionally exhausted, so it was easier to do what I had always done.
That feeling I had this weekend was familiar, but also a distant memory.
I remembered that I used to feel this way almost every single day.
I remembered it was no way to live an abundant life.
I woke up this morning with new purpose.
Allowing myself that time to mope was a good lesson for me. It reminded me of what I have always done and why I wanted to change. It highlighted how far I have come.
It’s hard to change because as soon as we are tired, our brain goes into default mode. For some default is working even harder, driving themselves into the ground, for me it was anxiety and freeze mode.
Watching Mel Robbins this morning, [link] I was interested to hear the 5 second rule. If we have an idea of a goal (however small), but sit on it for even a few extra seconds, the impetus dies.
We don’t take action.
We procrastinate.
I found that fascinating.
I know it makes sense, I have physically felt that hesitation and dying process within me.
Have you?
What are you procrastinating on at the moment?
How does it make you feel?
How will it feel when the task is completed?
If you are procrastinating your life away, you are not alone. Many of my clients have waited years before finding me and working towards what they really want to do in life.
There is always an excuse:
I don’t have time for an hour call every week.
I don’t have the finance (but how much money have you wasted on other things that haven’t changed your life).
The kids are too young.
I’m too old to change.
Nothing will ever change no matter what I do (yet you do nothing).
It’s everyone else’s fault that my life is how it is.
What excuses are you using to stop you in your tracks?
Write them down.
It helps to get them on paper and then you can see whether they are reality, or just excuses.
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Jenny Jarvis is a practicing, certified, UK Holistic Life Change Coach and NLP Specialist who has empowered numerous people to live a life of their dreams, unleash their relationship with money and start and grow brands and businesses to great success. A truly inspirational individual, Jenny is also the mum to two amazing teens, a Reiki Master and motivational speaker. She inspires all to harness their greatness through energised coaching sessions, workshops and her membership club. Book a free introductory session with Jenny HERE and discovery how you might work together. Or why not get started with her FREE 'Life Change Kickstart' Mini course HERE