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Life Change Articles from Jenny Jarvis Coaching

Learn to love yourself and start receiving the love you deserve.

I get it. You want to be loved, but you don't know how to love yourself in the way that you want to be loved. It's hard not to feel insecure when your partner doesn't love you the same way that you love them. But before we can even think about having a healthy relationship, we need to learn how to love ourselves. So, let's start with understanding what we need in order to feel loved.

Why don’t they love me in the way I want to be loved?

Do you love yourself?

Of course not! Why would I do that? I’m not arrogant.

But if you don’t love yourself, how can you expect someone else to?

They should just love me anyway; love is unconditional right?

Well, what about the unconditional love for yourself?

What does that even mean?!

Loving yourself is:

Comparing yourself to no one other than yourself.

Not worrying what others think of you.

Not beating yourself up when you make a mistake.

Knowing you are good enough.

Not allowing anyone to speak to you in a negative way.

Trusting yourself to make decisions about your life.

Not seeking everyone else’s opinion all the time.

Not apologising for everything.

Things you can do to Love Yourself:

Be Grateful

What are you grateful for in yourself? It could be your resilience, your kindness, your hair, your listening skills.

Speak kindly

How often do you tell yourself you are stupid or something else negative? Catch yourself. When you start running yourself down in your mind say “I’m not going to think like that” and say something you would say to a good friend. For other ideas on how to change the way you speak to yourself, check out my free kickstart workbook.

High five

You know how I love the Mel Robbins High Five. Give yourself a high five every morning in the mirror.


Follow my EFT tapping routine to release those negative emotions.


Book a reiki treatment to increase your own vibrational level.

Give yourself a hug!

Watch my latest YouTube on how giving yourself a hug can help.

Self-love and confidence are interlinked. Confidence is a skill, it grows and expands with practice. This is the same with self-love. Self-love can grow by taking small steps, in exactly the same way as confidence. The more you love yourself, the more confident you get. The more confident you get, the more you love yourself.

Love is one of the most important things in life. It makes the world go round and can make us happier than anything else. However, it’s not always easy to find love or be loved by others in the way that we want. This is partly because loving ourselves is often a lot harder than we think. If you have always felt a bit odd, on the outside looking in, a bit different and not comfortable in your own skin and you want to learn how to love yourself so that others can love you more, join my members club today. I have a host of resources waiting for you that will help you on your journey to self-love. And who knows? Once you’ve mastered this art, you may just find that the love you were looking for was right there all along!

How I can help

My 1-1 programs will give you the focus, challenge and direction to find what you are looking for.

My membership will surround you with inspiring and positive people.

My Emails, YouTube and Social Media posting will give you the daily boost you need to know you are not alone, others are going through similar things and it is possible to change if you choose to.

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Take the first steps towards your own Powerful Life.


Jenny Jarvis is a practicing, certified, UK Holistic Life Change Coach and NLP Specialist who has empowered numerous people to live a life of their dreams, unleash their relationship with money and start and grow brands and businesses to great success. A truly inspirational individual, Jenny is also the mum to two amazing teens, a Reiki Master and motivational speaker. She inspires all to harness their greatness through energised coaching sessions, workshops and her membership club.

Book a free introductory session with Jenny and discovery how you might work together. Or why not get started with her FREE 'Life Change Kickstart' Mini course


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