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Life Change Articles from Jenny Jarvis Coaching

“Why are families nowadays getting divorced so quick?”

I was a bit taken aback by this question from a complete stranger.

I felt very judged.

I felt the need to tell them I was married for 11 years, together for 16, we were friends when we separated and I had no idea that we wouldn’t stay together forever until almost the day we had “the conversation”.

But really, there was no need for me to explain.

Looking at it a bit later I thought of all the people out there who are asked similar questions as they are going through the trauma of divorce, without having had all the support I have.

Why do we leave so easily?

Why do people bother getting married if they won’t stay together?

What about the children, shouldn’t you stay for them?

The fact is, it is rarely easy.

How often do you think people wake up in the morning and go “oh, I think I’ll get divorced today, it’s no biggie”?

I remember a friend of mine telling me how she felt like a complete failure when she got divorced.

I know others who are embarrassed because they have been divorced more than once.

It’s something people say very quietly out of the side of their mouth like a confession.

I don’t think it’s easy to get divorced, for me it has been a long process and it gets more difficult as the time goes past.

I wish I had done it years ago.

One thing I don’t wish is that I had worked harder at staying together.

Am I sad? Yes.

Am I regretful? No.

Do I feel I failed? Not at all, actually.

But I know many that do feel regretful and a failure, where moving forward is almost too difficult to contemplate. So, they stay stuck because it feels easier than the alternative.

How do you feel about your own divorce?

Were you like me and identified with being a wife?

Or were you a husband that felt second best and would rather be at work?

Do you feel judged? Regretful? At peace?

I have been on a huge personal development curve since we separated 6 years ago.

I know for sure I am not the same person.

After we lose our identity, it can take a lot of work to find out who you really are.

I did that work.

Some days I have the feelings I used to carry with me every single day.

The ones of anxiety, worry, not knowing what the future held. I would hate to go back to that.

So, when I get asked by a stranger, why is it so easy for people to divorce these days, I don’t think it’s ever easy.

Sometimes it is definitely for the best though.

If you are feeling frustrated, sad, worried, judged or like a failure, you are not alone.

Coaching can help to support you to find a new future.

Whether you were cheated on, you had an affair yourself, you just grew apart, whatever the reason, there will be no judgement from me.

I will work with you to discover the life that will enable you to thrive, not just survive.

Take the first steps towards a Powerful Life.

Have a powerful day with leading UK life change coach Jenny Jarvis


Jenny Jarvis is a practicing, certified, UK Holistic Life Change Coach and NLP Specialist who has empowered numerous people to live a life of their dreams, unleash their relationship with money and start and grow brands and businesses to great success. A truly inspirational individual, Jenny is also the mum to two amazing teens, a Reiki Master and motivational speaker. She inspires all to harness their greatness through energised coaching sessions, workshops and her membership club. Book a free introductory session with Jenny HERE and discovery how you might work together. Or why not get started with her FREE 'Life Change Kickstart' Mini course HERE


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